@ushshi Matching PJs
Photo courtesy of @ushshi

One night while I was watching the Instagram Stories of two of my faves, @aminatou & @ushshi, they both posted adorable selfies in their matching pajama sets. It got me thinking about sleepwear, why I don’t wear coordinated sets, and what not making those types of purchases says about me.

I couldn’t tell you the last time I bought a PJ set, but if I had to guess, it involved a sleepover or some other event where I thought I might be judged for what I’m wearing. My sleepwear generally consists of sweatpants, t-shirts I wouldn’t be caught dead in outside the house, and the rare pair of printed PJ pants found on clearance. Seeing Aminatou & Ushshi in these purposefully purchased sets touched my heart, but it also touched a nerve. Why don’t I invest in myself in this way? I had to know if I was the only one wearing odds & ends to bed, so naturally, I turned to Twitter. The poll results show that I’m not alone.

For me personally, sleepwear is the last place in my wardrobe that gets attention & investment. I have a black & white tie dye tee that is soft, comfortable, and hated by everyone close to me, but I refuse to stop wearing it around the house. My other sleepwear includes sweatpants, embarrassing brand t-shirts (we’re talking pharmaceutical), and shirts that have become so worn out that I can no longer wear them in public. The idea of spending money on these items literally never crosses my mind while shopping.

I’ve always saved sleepwear purchases as a goal for when I’m more financially secure, a marker of success and personal achievement. Why don’t I think that what I wear to bed is as worthy of an investment as what I wear to the grocery store? Ushshi wisely pointed out, as we both work from home, that matching sets make her feel more pulled together even when she hasn’t left the house. I’m so inspired by Aminatou, Ushshi, and everyone who answered “of course” to my Twitter poll for investing in themselves, for themselves.

I hope these lovely ladies have motivated you to look more closely at what you wear when you’re hidden away from the world. My conversations with them have pushed me to question the bias in my value system. It’s given me a lot to think about and I hope that you feel the same. When I asked Ushshi to use her photos, she requested links to even more cute sleepwear, so without further delay, here are some shopping recommendations just for you. <3

PS, one of my favorite plus size sleepwear secrets is that Katie Rodgers, aka Paper Fashion, collaborated with sleepwear brand Bedhead & her prints are available up to size 3x (24/26).

Sarah Conley is a veteran content creator and marketing consultant from Fayetteville, Arkansas. After publishing her first blog, Style It, for over 10 years, she launched Rascal Honey in early 2018 to offer a fresh perspective on style. Her writing has appeared on Time, Teen Vogue, The Huffington Post, Glamour, and Lucky. She's also appeared in tv interviews on CNBC, Fox News, Great Day Washington, The Huffington Post Live, and People Now. She's worked as a social media consultant for the past nine years, helping fashion & beauty brands like MAC Cosmetics, NARS, Prescriptives, Origins, David Yurman, ELOQUII, ellos, Nine West, Clé de Peau Beauté, Diane von Furstenberg, and many more create meaningful communities online. When she's not writing about style or shopping for makeup at Sephora, she's cheering on the Arkansas Razorbacks and perfecting her guacamole recipe.


  1. I’ve been thinking about this myself — why don’t I give myself better loungewear? Probably because I’m single — but that needs to stop being an excuse. Self-care around the clock matters.

    • Hi Tanya,

      It was so great connecting with you on Twitter! It’s something I didn’t give thought to before this week and when I was writing this post, I thought how ridiculous it is that I care more about what I wear to the grocery store than what I wear at home. It’s extremely easy to make an excuse when no one’s watching, but I’m hoping to step up my pajama game in a big way. Please let me know if you do, too! xo

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